Women often talk about sex and the things their man hurts in bed, so we thought it was time to tell him about the most common mistakes she makes. We might think we run the world with our female moments, but that doesn’t mean we always make the best decisions in the bedroom.
Here are some common and avoidable mistakes that can dramatically improve your sex life.
1. Excessive worry
Worrying too much about your appearance won’t make sex great. It is essential to let go sometimes to enjoy the present moment. Don’t wait until you’re horizontal to start over-analyzing the state of your relationship. Distracted minds don’t have great orgasms, ladies.
2. Don’t talk, only kiss
Ladies, you need to slow down during sex. Don’t talk too much and don’t expect your partner to do it after sex.
3. Submission
Get depressed and dirty to be dominant in bed. Men hate it when you’re just trying to be submissive.
4. Teeth, oh my god!
When coming down on your man, never use your teeth. It can be extremely painful and your man is not going to benefit from it.
5. Calm your ego
Even if you don’t like something your man has done, tell him soothingly and indirectly. Don’t just crush his ego!
6. Not paying attention to hygiene and grooming.
Good hygiene doesn’t necessarily mean you have to be clean-shaven, but you should keep your feminine parts clean. Don’t grow a forest down there. You could wax (I know it hurts) or even trim. If you don’t want to go bald down there, it might be romantic to find out how your man wants it. If you want me to spend time there, clean it up. You cannot douche, but you must wash your hands well, including your lips. We are known for discharge almost everywhere so you need to keep your armpits and underarms trimmed. The bad smell repels. Eliminate the fishy smell or reduce it by washing just before the act. Take special care before being intimate. Invest in a good deodorant and body spray or even a perfume; it could also be an aphrodisiac for your man. Wear clean lingerie and change your bedding regularly.
7. Please, no drama!
Being too dramatic and picky about your bedroom habits can throw your man off in bed.
8. Comfortable Sheets
Don’t get too comfortable with your man between the sheets. Turns out you dozed off instead of getting there. How embarrassing would that be?
9. Don’t pretend
Ladies, don’t pretend to have an orgasm. Guide your man to do what you like so that there are greater possibilities for pleasure and satisfaction. If he’s ready for me to finish, say so. Faking reinforces wrong moves and is essentially a form of lying that can come back to haunt you in a big way.
10. Pretend to have more knowledge than your man.
Sometimes to be sexy, a lady will make the best sex star impression of her … and reveal her inexperience with her. It is much more attractive, to be honest. If she hasn’t tried something before, he will be happy to teach her all about it.
11. Be calm
No one should fake moaning and groaning, but why not just let it out if it’s there? Talking during sex lets you know what’s working without having to spell it out, and it can also help you connect to your body to experience what’s going on.
12. Being Bored.
Good sex is impossible to be boring, so if you are bored it is time to take things in your hands and shake things up until you are no longer bored.
13. Lack of oral sex.
Somewhere along the way, some women have come to believe that giving ahead is difficult, or a burden, or even a little degrading. But the flip side is, it’s a stimulating way to make your man cum intimately. Men love this enthusiasm.
14. Asking questions while at “it”
How was it? Did you enjoy it? So many “did” and “how did” questions. This could spoil the fun. Don’t even be surprised if your man has forgotten the experience. After all, he’s in a relaxed mood now. Don’t hurt yourself by asking questions. Men don’t think this is the right time to ask for such a thing. Do you want to know if it was fun? He will tell you during or even after. Asking will show signs of low self-esteem or the need for approval. Be a safe girl. You just used your girl power. Leave it at that. Don’t worry, be confident. If you feel like she didn’t do well this time, she will surely do well next time. The key to all of this is your way of thinking. How do you see your partner? Do you love him enough to want to satisfy his needs? See your man’s body as your treasure hunt and you are a miner looking for gold. If that’s too much of a stretch, look at your spouse’s body as the second place of worship and you’ll be fine. Treat her body parts as your own and you will cherish them forever.
15. Jump out of bed immediately after the act.
Come on, sister! Your man did not spray insecticide on you, nor did he introduce poison into your system. Why not stay in bed and let your emotions soak up? Don’t treat your man’s semen like poison, relax and cuddle. You may not be ready to have a child yet, but don’t you think it’s too late? Try birth control, but visit a healthcare provider first to decide which one will be perfect for you, or use emergency pills when it happens unexpectedly. This is not the time to worry about personal hygiene, and rushing to the bathroom doesn’t mean you’re clean.
16. See making love as a chore
Some women pretend to be sick when their husband draws her attention. I know you are a mom and a workaholic, and you need to rest, but consider being intimate with your man as a time to cool off. It has more benefits than you think you know. In addition to reducing your stress levels, it makes you happy and also helps you bond with your man. When you are tired and need to rest, you can speak to your partner politely and not ask if kissing is food. To answer your question, yes, it is food for a man. Agree with your man and talk to him with love. I remember a friend whose husband complained a lot about her attitude towards love. She said insulting and hurtful words to him and sometimes left the room to go to sleep in another room. Unfortunately, she is out of the house with her man married to their maid. This is one of the reasons why men cheat today, although it is not an excuse; sometimes women contribute to the deceitful attitude of their spouse. This is what paved the way for today’s side criticism. A cheater will always cheat regardless of the “snake in the monkey’s shadow” style in bed, but do your part and let your man. Someone is waiting to satisfy your man if you are not ready.
17. Not initiating sex and taking the lead.
I think culture is to be blamed for this as a woman is generally considered a whore by society when she knows how to give a man what he wants in bed, but this should not stop us, women, as we times are changing. Remember, no one knows your partner’s body as you do, so use it to your advantage. Feel free to start making love. Use codes or body language that the two of you should understand well if you don’t know how to talk about it. If you can take the lead in the boardroom, how about the bedroom? Be free to tell your man you need him and be in charge. Try positions that put you in control, like cowgirl or reverse cowgirl. Rise your man to magical heights. He will love you for it.
18. Not being able to express your desire.
Your desires to your man Some attribute it to shyness. Others expect the guy to find out what’s on their minds. Your man is not a mind reader. Doesn’t understand your silence or tantrums. Better to just say what you want. If you don’t answer me, you will hurt yourself a lot. If he is good at what he does, tell him, and if not, you can tell him or even tell him what to do and how you like it. Take this opportunity to also ask him what he likes and try to give it to him as well. In addition, clearly define your boundaries, otherwise, you could get poked in the butt.
19. Dissatisfied with their bodies
There is nothing wrong with being naked and letting your spouse explore your body. That’s why you are a couple. No wonder some women like to undress in the dark. and some undressed and headed straight for the veil. Go ahead, girl, don’t feel bad about a flabby belly or bulge. can I tell you something Your friend didn’t notice? He feels that you have the best body. Do you think he’s worried about “Falling heroes” or not? Not really! It was his nature to like it. And if you don’t feel too good about it You can fix it. but in the meantime please love yourself Your man doesn’t see what your head says about your body. He is enjoying the moment, and in his heart, everything he thinks and sees is a real woman. Let your partner admire what they have. Seeing you naked can wake him up and help you halfway through your mood control. Don’t put out the spark in your bedroom.
20. Get angry when your partner falls asleep.
You are sensitive You just fell asleep immediately after getting the “it” ups and downs, can’t you hug me when I fell asleep in your arms? You just take a nap while I’m alone to think when I’ll reach the land of dreams. Sounds familiar I guess. I understand that you like to talk for a bit and then fall asleep, but after doing “Khun Chai” you tend to get sleepy. Blame biology if you will, but that’s just the way it is. So don’t get angry when this happens.
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